I have had so many expectations in my short and wonderful life. Some have been good to me and others have not.
I think it's a wonderful and powerful thing when you come expectant, but it can be weary on your soul when you have such high expectations for such an unpredictable situation.
Like always, I would like to share a personal story of mine with you to better get my point across.
Often times when Holy Spirit speaks to me I get excited about what's to come. So much so that I start to try and figure out the next steps I need to take in order for me to get to where I need to go. And when I'm passionate I become a planner.
I plan, and I plan, and I plan, and I plan...
And before I even know it I've created a multitude of high expectations ready to be met. On one hand I love that I have a drive that keeps me hopeful, but on the other hand, I don't enjoy the possible disappointment I have now opened myself up to.
And you know what they say,
"What goes up must come down."
Most of the time, I have such hard lows because of the unmet expectations I've created. And it usually sounds something like this,
"That didn't go the way I thought it would..."
"I feel so bummed out. This wasn't what I pictured..."
"Why did I waste my time planning just for it to be thrown out the window??"
Those are all valid feelings, and definitely potential results of having high expectations for things, but what I need you to know is that just because something didn't turn out the way you wanted it to doesn't mean you failed or haven't done something worth noting.
For instance, my cousin was in town and one of the things she wanted to do was have a cousins night out at Coronado Island, sit around the fire pit over looking the beach at the Hotel del Coronado and eat some dinner, but that didn't end up happening the way she had hoped.
For starters, my brother couldn't make it, it was cold, we couldn't get any seats near the fire pits, and the hotel menu was lacking proper food options, and was far too expensive to be enjoyable... Plans ruined...
Or so we thought!
Instead, our series of unmet expectations and derailed plans ended up taking us on an adventure that was far more special than the previous plans could have ever provided.
We ended up finding a cute little pizzeria that sold ginormous pizzas, carried it all the way back to beach, ate to our hearts content, while watching the most amazing sunset! The laughs and the memories made ended up being more valuable to me because of the journey it took to get to where we ended up.
And while we sat and drank hot coffee outside the hotel cafe my cousin let out a happy sigh and said, "Well that didn't go how planned it at all!" We all smiled and chuckled a bit.
I took in a deep breath as if I wanted to breathe this moment in and never forget it.
She then added that there must be something significant we can all learn from the days events. We went around the table and I said "Today didn't go at all how we planned it, but at the end of the day I had more fun on our crazy adventure than I would have with the expectations we had at the beginning of the day." I then added "We definitely paid a price today, but it was so worth it."
Th price was control, and even though it was hard to let go of our expectations in the beginning, it was far more worth it in the end. And I would happily pay the price of surrendering control when given the chance again!
God's plans for us are a lot like this. Often times, we try to control every aspect of our lives, and a lot of times it is to our own detriment. But God has better plans.
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
And I can almost guarantee that His plans for us are NOTHING like the plans we have for ourselves. And for a small price of surrendering control to Him we will be able to taste and see His goodness for our lives.
I hope that resinates with you in a way that gives you hope!
And lastly, what my cousin had to say next was so good! She said, "But remember that expectations are not a bad thing because we need an inspiring thought to take us somewhere. AND an inspiring thought without action doesn't create anything."
So with that all being said, come expectant! But don't be afraid to give up control in order to accept His love and promises for us!